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evaelisabeth) wrote2006-09-02 02:05 pm
evaelisabeth) wrote2006-09-02 02:05 pm
What I have concluded about Polyamoury
Thank you to all of you who posted on my question (badly phrased as it was).
Unsurprisingly all the comments have confirmed that it's not for me, like![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
krkhst and ingridsummers I have extremely deep and close platonic relationships outside of my romantic relationship with my husband and those adequately feed my needs.
I know that polyamoury can work, I have solid evidence to that effect, but I also have solid evidence that it is not for everyone and that it requires (in my opinion at least) a higher level of self knowledge and security than monogamy to build a multiple relationship on. Finally there is a huge difference between the idea of a free and easy lifestyle without serious committment dating different people at the same time; and a solid permanent family structure with internal rules of exclusivity within the family and many different stages in between.
Mono or Poly, neither is better or worse, they are different strokes for different folkes, but comming from the Mono side the Poly choice still seems more complicated and challenging on a basic level.
Unsurprisingly all the comments have confirmed that it's not for me, like
krkhst and ingridsummers I have extremely deep and close platonic relationships outside of my romantic relationship with my husband and those adequately feed my needs. I know that polyamoury can work, I have solid evidence to that effect, but I also have solid evidence that it is not for everyone and that it requires (in my opinion at least) a higher level of self knowledge and security than monogamy to build a multiple relationship on. Finally there is a huge difference between the idea of a free and easy lifestyle without serious committment dating different people at the same time; and a solid permanent family structure with internal rules of exclusivity within the family and many different stages in between.
Mono or Poly, neither is better or worse, they are different strokes for different folkes, but comming from the Mono side the Poly choice still seems more complicated and challenging on a basic level.